So a friend and blogger, Ari has written a blog based on an article in US Glamour called “30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She’s 30” I’ve pinched the idea and decided to give it a go myself since I’m about to enter my 29th year. You take the list and comment after each one. So here goes!
By 30, I “should” have …
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
I have had exactly one boyfriend – and I married him! I look back at who I was when I met him, and I can see how far I’ve come. It’s been hard and fantastic and I wouldn’t change any of it, because I’ve grown with him.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
I think all of my furniture has been bought by me and my husband, except the desk in my photography room.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
That’s tricky because no outfit can be thought out correctly and then worn within an hour! It needs a minimum of at least a night’s mulling!
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
I have a few handbags I love to show off. Two Diors, a Gucci, an Orla Kiely and my current favourite is a Biba. My suitcase is functional not stylish – wouldn’t mind a new one! I have about 8 umbrellas. My newest is from Paperchase and has different types of weather printed all over it. My favourite was bought at Glastonbury festival two years ago when it was baking hot and there was no shade. It’s a sun with little sunbeams sticking out the top!
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
I am content to move beyond my youth, but I don’t want to start acting like an adult yet. I want to act like a teenager forever but I’ve learned from mistakes I made when I was a kid.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
I have some stories. In fact I have a bad habit of telling them to the same person lots of times…. and they just look at me like ‘you’ve told me this twice already’….. I’m not done having fun yet though!
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.
This isn’t something you have to think about yet, surely? You have to think about having the money to fund the now and the big things for the near future like a house and a car or a family. Once you’ve got those you can then think about your old age – but what’s the point of saving all your money for old age and not enjoying the lead up to it?
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.
Yes, yes and yes. But I allow access to family if they need it. I have the control though – mwahaha!
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
Why would you risk padding your CV? I never have and never will. My CV is too long as it is!
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
I am lucky to say I have a rather large group of people I would call best friends and all of them would make me laugh and allow me to cry. That’s why they’re my best friends!
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
Yes, No and Yes. Why do I need a cordless drill?
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
Hmm… probably the Dior hangbags! Oh and some Jimmy Choos…….
13. The belief that you deserve it.
I really do believe in the golden rule. Do as you would be done by. I think good people should get good fortune. It doesn’t work that way though. Good things happen to bad people. I know I deserve good fortune, but I also know that I may not get it!
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
Ha! I’m going to look 16 forever…. that’s my curse.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
I have a very satisfying relationship. At this point in my life things have begun to change career wise. My prospects and my attitude to the future has changed and it’s exciting. Lots of things seem possible and I’m not scared about it.
By 30, you should know …
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
I know how to fall in love. I know how to lose myself when I want to and be myself when I need to.
2. How you feel about having kids.
Not sure to be honest. I want to know what they would look like, but I love my freedom and the opportunity to get lost somewhere without consequences.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
Quitting a job is simple, confronting a friend is awkward but fine if they’re your friend. I’m never breaking up with my man.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
Yes. This took a long time to learn.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
I’m a woman, what do you think?
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
I know the latter two. You don’t get tailors where I live, you get dry cleaners who can sew buttons on and fix zips. For tailors you need Saville Row. I don’t know the name of the secretary of state, but that’s because I’m British….. (bad excuse I’m sorry! I’m going to learn right now……)
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
No. And I don’t want to learn this.
8. Where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing.
I have a few places and that’s good with me.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
My legs are amazingly long (34″) and that’s fine. The width of my hips gives me a nice hour-glass figure. I wouldn’t want to change the nature of my parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
There wasn’t anything wrong with my childhood other than it took me 29 years before I was able to get on a rollercoaster! My parents knew when to tell me what to do and when not to interfere no matter how worried they were. My upbringing has allowed me to learn and work out who I am now.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
Well yes, but that’s all to do with upbringing too.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
I’ve never flossed in my life – that’s a lie, I tried it once and it was horrid so I never did it again. The rest of that list can go jump.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
I’ve learned to not take things personally. I’m a very blunt person and feel honesty is the best policy. Lies will usually come back and bite you on the bum. Awkward things said plain and black and white can be made a lot less awkward. I learn the hard way who I can trust…. and don’t usually learn from these mistakes – hence honesty being the best policy!
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
Ack! I always apologise for things that aren’t my fault and I hate it.
15. Why they say life begins at 30.
Well, we shall see!