8 Reasons I Love Blogging: It’s Our 8th Blogiversary!

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This is just a quick post to say “Yay” for Musings of a So-Called Shutterbug – it’s our 8th birthday today!

This is the longest I’ve ever consistently written a blog, since starting blogging in around 1998.

To celebrate I thought I’d share 8 reasons why I love blogging!

  1. It’s my own little corner of the internet. I write blog posts for me, and I’ll only put out things I’m proud of, so I love it when people relate to what I write.
  2. I love writing. I’m fairly creative but most of the things I’ve tried, I suck at! But I can write, and I’m glad I have somewhere to do it. And I think I’m not so bad at it. It’s my favourite hobby!
  3. The community is awesome – I’ve only discovered the blogging community in the last year or so, and I’m so pleased I did. As a fairly anti social person, I love that I can stretch my social legs and chat to kindred spirits via social media.
  4. It pushes me to be better at both writing and photography. I think about things in a more creative light.
  5. I love to hear other people’s perspective on things, and blogging allows this debate (as long as you’re not mean!) It’s more than once shown me perspectives I wouldn’t have otherwise considered.
  6. It’s shown me how awesome it is to praise others, and myself on achievements. It was once seen as vain to big yourself up, or take photos of yourself, but I think if you feel good about yourself you should show it. And it’s a great feeling to support other people if you think what they’re doing is great!
  7. Being in the blog community allows me to see what’s going on in the world, discover trends up front and early on and sometimes have the opportunity to work alongside brands. I love that I’m part of a big group of people that brands trust to share their products.
  8. The blogosphere has evolved a LOT since I started all those years ago, and I love how it’s evolved and is still evolving. But we all have the creative freedom to alter how we blog as the season changes. It’s never dull!

So here’s to another fabulous year of blogging!

Do you write a blog? Send me your links in the comments below, and hit me up on twitter @Shutterbug_Blog

I’ll see you there!

Why I Love Milton Keynes

Milton Keynes is celebrating its 50th birthday today so I thought I’d share some of the reasons why this New City is a place I love!

I have lived here for most of my life (bar 2/3 years somewhere in the middle where I lived just outside) and even though it’s been the butt of people’s jokes, I still firmly believe it’s an awesome place to live. Here’s why:

  • Milton Keynes was built a New City, with the environment, industry and lifestyle in mind. It has excellent links to London (be there on the train in less than an hour), redways (paths that run alongside or under the main roads, tarmacked in red) that allow you to travel through the town on bike or by foot almost completely without having to brave dangerous dual carriageways.

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  • The buses have always and probably still are unashamedly always late. You might as well burn the timetables, and more often than not if your bus stop actually has one of those new fangled digital displays tracking the buses on it, your bus will get 5 minutes away and then disappear – see MK is magical! I don’t use the buses anymore, so I see this as charming……
  • Despite it often being a punchline (the bit in Love Actually, where someone is learning English and they say “Milton Keynes has many roundabouts”, for one) it’s also famous for a few very cool things. It’s home to Bletchley Park and the Enigma machine which cracked the code and won the war in the 40s. Part of Superman 4 was filmed here, outside our train station, which was thought to look futuristic at the time. It still looks the same now, so make up your own mind next time you’re here! Cliff Richard filmed his ‘Wired for Sound’ music video here, roller skating through our shopping centre.

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  • And on the subject of our shopping centre, the old bit (because we call tend to refer to the two sections of mall by saying ‘the old bit’ and ‘new bit’, even though the new bit is really old now….) was Europe’s largest shopping mall when it opened. I worked in the shopping centre on and off for the majority of my working life, and it holds a special place in my heart. It’s not the fanciest but I like it 🙂

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  • We also had the UK’s first multiplex cinema in The Point, which was a huge pyramid-shaped building with red neon lights outlining it. It was an exciting thing to see as a child, in its prime. Go give it a google! The smell of the popcorn as you walked in, and the sound of the kids playing the arcade was incredibly exciting, and something I’ll never forget.
  • I love how you can drive a few miles and be out of the cityscape and in the countryside. We have loads of old villages, pubs, markets, forests and trail walks. There are farms and fields, but also on the flip side of that we have high-rise apartment buildings, bustling businesses, a theatre, ski dome – pretty much everything you’d want. Oh and about 5 Nandos within the space of 5 miles…

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  • Even though we’re mocked for our roundabouts, I honestly believe MK was set out really well. It’s one way grid-system roads were based on the layout of New York City!
  • This also makes it really awesome for running – Milton Keynes has become a mecca for runners and cyclists with events all throughout the year. The paths and roads are relatively flat and it’s easy to run for miles without having to worry about cars.
  • The Bowl, Milton Keynes’ open air concert venue, has been home to artists like Michael Jackson, David Bowie, Queen, Bon Jovi, REM, Foo Fighters, Kings of Leon and Radiohead to name a very few. Over the years there has been talk of its purpose changing but thankfully it hasn’t happened yet. I love seeing live music events there!

I have loads of great memories of Milton Keynes and I hope to have many more! Children’s Day at The Bowl was always great fun. I remember having a red balloon with a tag tied to it which had an address and my name on. The idea was that if someone somewhere far away found your balloon they’d contact the address and the organisers could see how far it flew. All the balloons were put together and released in one big magical swathe of red! I think I’ll always remember that!

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Milton Keynes continues to grow and develop. It’s always been that way, and I’m often surprised at where they find the space to build what they build, but it’s never too much. With all the greenery mixing in with the industrial landscape, it’s the best of both worlds. And I really don’t think I’ll be moving away any time soon.

Happy Birthday Milton Keynes, and here’s to many more!

 

 

Las Vegas by Numbers

Last week we spent an amazing 7 days in one of our favourite places in the world, Las Vegas. But you don’t want a boring day by day run down of our holiday, so here’s our vacation round-up by numbers!

  • 11 – the number of hours our flight to Las Vegas took.

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  • 8 – hours behind the UK. We didn’t really suffer from jet lag either when we arrived or when we came home.
  • 2 – boxes of blister plasters I went through when I realised I’d brought all the wrong shoes to trample the strip.
  • 2 – pairs of new shoes I bought while there to assist my poor broken feet.
  • 10 – we averaged 10 miles a day walking around. No wonder my feet hurt!
  • 3 – the number of shows we saw whilst there – Michael Jackson One (Cirque de Soleil), Human Nature Motown Show, Jersey Boys (our 6th time seeing the show!)

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  • 4 – I watched 4 new movies over our 2 international flights – Mockingjay Pt 1, Men Women and Children, Nightcrawler and Skeleton Twins. I really recommend the last three.
  • 1 – The number of times we heard the word ‘dang’ legitimately used.
  • 2 – We ate at Hash House a Go Go twice, on our first morning and our last. It was worth the wait on the last day.

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  • 3 – the number of games of roulette I played. Also the number of games I came out up!

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  • 35 – the number of hours we were awake from the day we left Las Vegas to the day we arrived back home.
  • 1 – the number of times I rode the New York, New York rollercoaster. It was fun, but wasn’t thrilling. I need something more extreme! Gimme the Hollywood Tower of Terror!

11061285_10155478212280727_6311385057821856076_nWe love Las Vegas and can see ourselves making a trip there a regular occurence!

December 3rd

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Today’s advent calendar offering is brought to you by the ghost of Christmas past. I’m not a huge fan of rehashing old posts, but this is relevant and there’s no point in rewriting something that was written perfectly well the first time!

In 2010 I wrote a post entitled The Christmas Queen’s guide to Gift Buying. Within that post I try to outline what’s good and what’s bad in buying presents. You can read the whole post by clicking above, but below I’ve posted the Cliffs Notes version.

I still find it strange when people buy the wrong present for friends and family, or simply can’t think of anything to get. So I thought I’d write a guide to finding the perfect present, and simple does and don’ts for those gift-buying challenged readers.

Firstly the simple rules of gift buying: The definition of a perfect present for someone, is something they’d love to have but wouldn’t buy for themselves. Stay away from the clichéd gifts. People say if you buy something for someone which you’d like yourself, it makes a good gift, but I’d say if you buy your Nan a set of iPod speakers because you’d like them, you’re doing it wrong.

When I say stay away from clichés I mean don’t get the standard tie, socks, perfume etc. unless you know they really want them.

Gifts for women are easier than for men, in my opinion. But stay away from the obvious. If the woman you’re buying for loves a certain perfume, don’t buy that for them, because they’ll already have a bottle and it’ll take them at least another year until they use it. Instead, think around that theme – buy them an atomiser for their handbag so they can carry a small amount of scent around with them. Or get a beautiful perfume bottle to decant into. Don’t buy make up because you’ll get the shade wrong no doubt. And never ever buy a woman electrical kitchen appliances UNLESS she’s asked for it specifically. No woman wants a hoover for Christmas.

Men are very tricky, but they love gadgets or kits or puzzles. Think around their hobbies. If they like to read, get them a book journal or a set of book ends. If they like gardening, buy them a bird feeder or set of binoculars. But no to ties, socks or slippers! Those driving experiences are the sort of thing he’ll love! I know all men are different but if you think around hobbies you’ll get it right. Music lovers might like a biography of their favourite artist, if there is one. Book lovers might like books like ‘Eats, Shoots and leaves’. TV lovers might like a boxed set of their favourite show or a book guide to it. Animal lovers might like a kit where you’ve adopted their favourite animal on their behalf.

Kids – remember when you were a kid? Think about how much you loved the little off the cuff gifts you got that you would never have dreamed to ask for? I got a Funfax when I was little which I loved to death. It’s easy to spoil kids and if they’re your own, go ahead – but if they’re not yours it’s not up to you to spoil them. Buy them a book, or a small toy or a little electronic diary and leave the spoiling to their parents. And don’t forget that 10 minutes after they’ve opened your gift, they’re looking for the next one. So don’t waste your time and money – spend it on one good gift that they’ll love. Puzzles, teddys and little electronic games can be bought cheaply and will be used eventually if not straight away.

Since writing that post I’ve also become and massive fan of home-made gifts. The amount of wonderful ideas I’ve taken from Pinterest could easily fix most of my gift needs. I may even make one this year! My last present based tip for you is a fairly important one. Always wrap your gifts with a cocktail or two to hand. Makes it a lot more interesting 🙂

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What are your tips for choosing the perfect gift?

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30 by 30

I’ve read many lists online written by people coming up to 30 who want to set goals – they write their 30 by 30. A list of things they wish to achieve before they hit 30 years old. While this is a nice idea, I think it’s a little sad. I have already achieved so much, coming up to my 30th birthday on Thursday, that I feel I should celebrate those and look forward to my next years rather than dismissing what I’ve already done and trying for more. So I decided to compile a list of my 30 achievements (little and big) by 30 years old. They’re the stupid things that made great memories, and the big things that have shaped who I am today.

Here it is!:

  1. For about 2 years I managed to do something that scared me EVERY DAY. It wasn’t by choice to start with. It was part of doing a job which took me totally out of my comfort zone. I decided to embrace it rather than let it destroy me. Eventually I found that I wasn’t doing something that scared me every day because the same things just didn’t get to me in the same way. I became stronger.
  2. I got a ridiculous make-over with my Sister just before she got married. It was one of those free ones they offer at the make-up counter and we knew it would be terrible. We both came out looking like the Joker…… There are photographs somewhere….
  3. I got married to ‘The One’ – nuff said.71_6655970726_3256_n
  4. I became happy in my own skin. It took a while, but I did it.
  5. I saw the dark side and came back from it. For a while I was very unhappy. Diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and feeling depressed (though I don’t think I actually was). I didn’t recognise it until I was on my way out. Support from family and friends was imperative and it still is. I flit back into the shadows sometimes, but I’m able to gain support from various places (including you guys!) and come back. It’s taking each day as it comes.
  6. I slept in a car by the side of the road in Wales on a whim after deciding last-minute to drive and see a concert. It was a fun night, by a stream whilst sheep looked on. Comfy car too. The next morning my friend and I ended up in a Tesco bathroom applying make up on top of our make up and brushing our teeth. Classy.swansea1
  7. Been there for a friend.
  8. Let a friend be there for me. This was harder than it sounds.18557_431773310726_1693871_n
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  9. Realised that as you get older you have less shame. It means I have more fun!
  10. Discovered that as I get older I still feel 19. (Shh it’s a secret that all adults are just winging it!)
  11. Stayed up all night to watch the Oscars, with a friend who was actually part of a group nominated for one!
  12. Rode rollercoasters – and loved it! I’m now addicted.428672_10152936494690727_285990737_n
  13. Published a book. It’s available on Blurb – shameless plug 😀71542_500443130504_5843157_n
  14. Sold my photographs.
  15. Performed at the Royal Albert Hall and Millennium Dome (now the O2)
  16. Sent a message into space in a time capsule. It’s orbiting the Earth right now!
  17. Never ever taken drugs.
  18. Worked in a place I loved – and returned to finish the job!
  19. Been to a million festivals and gigs, and plan to keep it up!36201_10150220234325727_267950_n
  20. Danced like no one was watching. The most amazing feeling surrounded by people doing the same.
  21. Attended the Olympics last year and saw the Athletics. The first spark in my running addiction!Me outside the stadium
  22. Drove a quad bike across fields. I didn’t do very well but it was fun trying!
  23. Learned that I can do anything if I set my mind to it, and try to be patient!
  24. Celebrated Christmas in August.
  25. Laughed until it hurt and tears were streaming.
  26. Dropped everything and just went.
  27. Interviewed for jobs and told them what I wanted – and got it – on three separate occasions.
  28. Taken a massive risk and knew that it felt right.
  29. Wanted to take up running, took it up, trained, found I was okay at it and have now completed two races! I’m currently training for my first 10k which is in 4 weeks!after
  30. Felt totally and completely free.

There’s more. Some of these might not seem important, but they’re super important to me. I can’t wait to write my 60 by 60 – imagine the person I could be by then!

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What’s Rocking My Socks

As I have some free time on my hands at the moment, I have been trying to keep myself busy. Here’s what’s rocking my socks at the moment:

Sunshine and Blue Skies

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Gary enjoying the sun

It’s so good to see the sun shine without a cloud in the sky. It’s still a little chilly at the moment, but next week is promising to be better!

Seeing Family

I don’t often get the chance to spend time with Gary’s side of the family but in the last few weeks I’ve been able to see them much more. My Sister-In-Law and I are going to Thorpe Park next week too! I’ve never been and I can’t wait to get on the rides!

Listening to my iPod

why not?

I hadn’t used my iPod in ages because I never have the chance. The speakers on my laptop are über quiet and the walls in our house are so thin I can’t play my radio. So since the weather has improved I’ve been listening to my iPod in the garden when doing the lawn, and I intend on buying an arm strap for it for when I start running. (Incidentally: has anyone got any tips on ear buds that will stay in for when I run?) It’s been so nice to listen to my choice of music again!

Healthy Eating

Since Christmas my eating habits have been off kilter. I’ve had at least one box of chocolates in the house and I’d gotten used to just popping a choccie in my mouth when I got peckish or bored. I’m really not a chocolate lover but I seem to have gotten myself into a rut. So I’ve put on a little weight around the hips and my jeans are feeling a tad tighter than usual. At least I’m aware of it and thankfully my go to treats are normally something like fruit or yogurt. I’m loving The Collective Dairy yogurt. I found them ages ago in Sainsbury and bought their Russian Fudge flavour. It’s a tad on the expensive side, but amazing and like nothing else. They only sell it in Sainsbury, Waitrose and now selected Morrisons and Tesco – though not in my Tesco so I’m a little grumpy about that. They do seasonal flavours too. I recommend you try it if you see it! They knew how much I loved their yogurt that they send me a voucher at Christmas. Aren’t they lovely?!

My Kindle

I’m so pleased I got a Kindle for my birthday last year. It really has changed the way I read and also my choice of books. I also love that you can see how long until the end of the chapter or book based on my reading speed, since the last software update.  G Man wondered whether I needed one of the newer ones but I love the one I have. It’s just technical enough 😀

Incidentally, on one of my recent trips out, my Sis-In-Law and I discovered a store called Tiger, which sells some amazing things at super cheap prices. I went onto their website and found that they have an off shoot called Tiger Camera. They’re currently running a competition for a place in their latest photo book and a chance for a trip to Africa. Their theme this year is ‘Connection’ and I’ve entered! If you are so inclined, I’d love it if my readers could pop over there and vote for my photo, if you like! I’d really appreciate it 🙂 (P.s. There is a really annoying spelling error in the description I wrote for it, but I can’t edit it now it’s submitted… argh!)

I can’t wait for the Bank Holiday with Gary – and it looks like the weather could be good for at least 2 of the 3 days. Whoop! Enjoy it, whatever you do!

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My Reading List pt2

AKA my love for my Kindle.

(Yes this is part 2. For part 1 go here!)

I have read things from other bloggers about how their ereader has changed their way of reading. I’m a slow reader and I was a little suspicious about this. But they were right! For my birthday my lovely G Man bought me a Kindle Touch and so far since mid August I’ve read 6 books on it (that’s good for me!) – and I’ve read a few real books too! I’m currently 1 book ahead on my Goodreads challenge and I’m reading 2 books at the moment (one whopper of a book which I can’t carry around with me, and one on kindle to save my poor arms!)
So here’s the rest of my list so far:

At the time of the first part of this post I was reading One Moment, One Morning, so let’s start there:

22. One Moment, One Morning – Sarah Rayner

23. Let The Right One In – John Ajvide Lindqvist

24. The Book of Tea – Okakura Kakuzo

25. Coraline – Neil Gaiman

26. Let’s Pretend This Never Happened – Jenny Lawson

27. Alice’s Adventure’s in Wonderland & Through The Looking Glass (read as two books but I can’t find them separately on Goodreads!) – Lewis Carroll

28. Room – Emma Donoghue

29. Seed – Ania Ahlborn

(Again in italics I have marked the books I wasn’t too enamoured with!)

So right now I’m reading Paper Towns by John Green on my Kindle and I’m about to start House of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski. It’s a huge tome of a book and it’s supposed to have a cult following. It’s meant to be very scary and when you open the book you will see some of the words are upside down or letters are missing or bits are unfinished. Fonts change, pictures and symbols appear. Some pages have one word and others are so chock full of words that there are no margins. I’m very intrigued by it so I can’t wait to get stuck in!
I’m only 11 books shy of finishing the challenge and I’m really enjoying participating. I wonder how many I’ll read next year?!

Stand by for part 3!

My reading list so far….

At the start of the year I decided to commit to the Goodreads reading challenge. You set a number of books yourself, and the website will tally your progress and lets you know how well you’re doing. A couple of my blogging friends have written in the last week or so listing what they’ve read so far and sometimes commenting on the books too. So I figured it was about time for me to do the same!

I set a goal of 40 books. Currently I’m 2 books behind, but I don’t think that will be hard to catch back up. I’m blaming my 2 week holiday and the Olympics…. 😀 So here goes:

  1. The Hunger Games – Suzanne Collins
  2. Catching Fire – Suzanne Collins
  3. Mockingjay – Suzanne Collins
  4. Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix – JK Rowling
  5. Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince – JK Rowling
  6. Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows – JK Rowling
  7. The Book of Lost Things – John Connolly
  8. The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake – Aimee Bender
  9. Lunch in Paris – Elizabeth Bard
  10. Moon over Soho – Ben Aaronovitch
  11. Happy Accidents – Jane Lynch
  12. The Woman in Black – Susan Hill
  13. On the Beach – Nevil Shute
  14. The Catcher in the Rye – JD Salinger
  15. Me Before You – Jojo Moyes
  16. My Dead Friend Sarah – Peter Rosch
  17. Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children – Ransom Riggs
  18. The Night Circus – Erin Morgenstern
  19. Mrs Frisby and the Rats of NIMH – Robert C O’Brien
  20. Never Let Me Go – Kazuo Ishiguro
  21. Witch Child – Celia Rees

I have marked in italics the books which I did not enjoy and would not recommend. Saying that, most of the books I have read have come highly recommended so they just weren’t my cup of tea – I have a very particular cup of tea.

I’m currently reading One Moment, One Morning by Sarah Rayner, which I’m struggling with. I found a mistake in the story fairly near the start which put me on the back foot with it, and the writing style is far more ‘chick-lit’ than I like to read. I’m persevering with it because I want to up my reading number! I have a few books lined up to read next, and I’m really looking forward to getting stuck in!
What are you reading and what are your all time favourite books to recommend?

30 Things

So a friend and blogger, Ari has written a blog based on an article in US Glamour called “30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She’s 30” I’ve pinched the idea and decided to give it a go myself since I’m about to enter my 29th year. You take the list and comment after each one. So here goes!

By 30, I “should” have …
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
I have had exactly one boyfriend – and I married him! I look back at who I was when I met him, and I can see how far I’ve come. It’s been hard and fantastic and I wouldn’t change any of it, because I’ve grown with him.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
I think all of my furniture has been bought by me and my husband, except the desk in my photography room.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
That’s tricky because no outfit can be thought out correctly and then worn within an hour! It needs a minimum of at least a night’s mulling!
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
I have a few handbags I love to show off. Two Diors, a Gucci, an Orla Kiely and my current favourite is a Biba. My suitcase is functional not stylish – wouldn’t mind a new one! I have about 8 umbrellas. My newest is from Paperchase and has different types of weather printed all over it. My favourite was bought at Glastonbury festival two years ago when it was baking hot and there was no shade. It’s a sun with little sunbeams sticking out the top!
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
I am content to move beyond my youth, but I don’t want to start acting like an adult yet. I want to act like a teenager forever but I’ve learned from mistakes I made when I was a kid.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
I have some stories. In fact I have a bad habit of telling them to the same person lots of times…. and they just look at me like ‘you’ve told me this twice already’….. I’m not done having fun yet though!
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.
This isn’t something you have to think about yet, surely? You have to think about having the money to fund the now and the big things for the near future like a house and a car or a family. Once you’ve got those you can then think about your old age – but what’s the point of saving all your money for old age and not enjoying the lead up to it?
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.
Yes, yes and yes. But I allow access to family if they need it. I have the control though – mwahaha!
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
Why would you risk padding your CV? I never have and never will. My CV is too long as it is!
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
I am lucky to say I have a rather large group of people I would call best friends and all of them would make me laugh and allow me to cry. That’s why they’re my best friends!
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
Yes, No and Yes. Why do I need a cordless drill?
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
Hmm… probably the Dior hangbags! Oh and some Jimmy Choos…….
13. The belief that you deserve it.
I really do believe in the golden rule. Do as you would be done by. I think good people should get good fortune. It doesn’t work that way though. Good things happen to bad people. I know I deserve good fortune, but I also know that I may not get it!
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.

Ha! I’m going to look 16 forever…. that’s my curse.

15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
I have a very satisfying relationship. At this point in my life things have begun to change career wise. My prospects and my attitude to the future has changed and it’s exciting. Lots of things seem possible and I’m not scared about it.
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By 30, you should know …
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
I know how to fall in love. I know how to lose myself when I want to and be myself when I need to.
2. How you feel about having kids.
Not sure to be honest. I want to know what they would look like, but I love my freedom and the opportunity to get lost somewhere without consequences.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
Quitting a job is simple, confronting a friend is awkward but fine if they’re your friend. I’m never breaking up with my man.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
Yes. This took a long time to learn.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
I’m a woman, what do you think?
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
I know the latter two. You don’t get tailors where I live, you get dry cleaners who can sew buttons on and fix zips. For tailors you need Saville Row. I don’t know the name of the secretary of state, but that’s because I’m British….. (bad excuse I’m sorry! I’m going to learn right now……)
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
No. And I don’t want to learn this.
8. Where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing.
I have a few places and that’s good with me.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
My legs are amazingly long (34″) and that’s fine. The width of my hips gives me a nice hour-glass figure. I wouldn’t want to change the nature of my parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
There wasn’t anything wrong with my childhood other than it took me 29 years before I was able to get on a rollercoaster! My parents knew when to tell me what to do and when not to interfere no matter how worried they were. My upbringing has allowed me to learn and work out who I am now.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
Well yes, but that’s all to do with upbringing too.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
I’ve never flossed in my life – that’s a lie, I tried it once and it was horrid so I never did it again. The rest of that list can go jump.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
I’ve learned to not take things personally. I’m a very blunt person and feel honesty is the best policy. Lies will usually come back and bite you on the bum. Awkward things said plain and black and white can be made a lot less awkward. I learn the hard way who I can trust…. and don’t usually learn from these mistakes – hence honesty being the best policy!
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
Ack! I always apologise for things that aren’t my fault and I hate it.
15. Why they say life begins at 30.
Well, we shall see!