Why I: Got Married Young

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I’ve had a few people ask in the last few months, how I met my husband. So I thought that the next post in my Why I series, could be about why I got married young.

I look younger than my actual age, and when people hear that I’ve been married for almost 11 years, they instantly ask my age.

I’m turning 34 this year and I married when I was 23. People always say that’s really young to get married, but I say if you know you want to marry someone it doesn’t really matter how old or young you are!

I met G-Man when I was 19, through a friend’s boyfriend. Our official story is that we met at Glastonbury music festival. The truth is we had met a couple of months before that, and had even had a conversation at a party but the evening wasn’t about meeting boys and so our encounter was brief.

So, when we met up at Glastonbury we were able to have proper conversations, relax and watch music together. And he stayed with me and my friend the whole time he was at the festival.

There was definite sparkage between us, and I knew I liked him. We saw each other pretty much every day from that point on. After about a month I knew this was something serious and the rest, as they say, is history!

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This was the first photo of us together, in my bright orange bedroom!

We look a little different now!

We got married in the garden of a little private manor house in Hatfield, under the roof of a mini garden pavilion, whilst our friends and families sat theatre style outside on the lawn. I walked up the aisle of lavender and it was the shortest but most-perfect ceremony. A beautiful September day, small wedding and fantastic start to our married life together.

Over the years, I’ve had friends ask me things like ‘how do you know when you’re ready to get married?’, ‘how do you know you want to marry someone?’ – and I almost always answer the clichéd ‘you just know’. And that’s because you do – you just know. As certain as you know you’re alive, you just know. And if you’re questioning it, then that’s between you and your partner to work out.

I love my marriage. We get on like a house on fire, we’re best friends and though we used to argue, we know how to argue productively now. I wouldn’t say we even do argue any more. He’s the best thing in my life, and I’m happy every single day because of him.

I don’t want this to sound soppy, but everything I’ve said is true. He’s a proper gentleman and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my days with him!

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Remembering My Big Day

Today I celebrate my 8 year wedding anniversary. I know what you’re all thinking, how can someone who looks about 26 have been married for so long? Well we got married at the tender age of 23 and I have good genes 🙂  (though I have started to notice a few lines under my eyes… eek!)

I have to be truthful, I don’t really remember much of the day. It goes so fast and I got so swept up in it that before I knew it, the whole thing was over.

I remember thinking it wasn’t fair that Gary couldn’t stay the night in my hotel room the night before, and it seemed mean I had to spend it on my own feeling lonely. I remember curling my hair the night before, like I always had to so the curls would settle whilst I slept, and waking up to poker straight hair. I ended up having to curl it again after breakfast and it didn’t end up half bad.

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I remember there being water and tissues in the back of the car taking me to the venue and wondering how many emotional brides had sat where I was sitting.

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And then I was walking down the aisle with my Dad, through an aisle of lavender towards all my family and friends sat in a beautiful garden on a glorious sunny September afternoon.

The day couldn’t have gone better. Friends and family mingled, the weather was perfect and I married my best friend.

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And then it was done. The wedding breakfast (a 3 meat carvery), the party and the disco. It’s only 2 years until our ten year anniversary and we’re hoping to go to Disneyworld in Florida to celebrate – I’d also love to renew our vows and have a party with friends and family, but who knows if we’ll actually do it. I would honestly love to, though, because I’d like to involve people I know now that I didn’t know then. Who knows, but I still have two glorious years to think about all that.

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This Week & Thoughts

Since I last posted, not a huge amount has ‘gone down’ (see how ‘with it’ I am).

  • I went out to dinner with two of my best girls and had a wonderful time. Laughing hysterically and always having about 3 conversations at a time. We apparently enjoy tangents.
  • I met another friend for lunch on Saturday which made for a very enjoyably 1 hour lunch break. Every little helps on a Saturday in retail!
  • I wrote a tweet about Justin Bieber which got over 40 retweets from little teeny boppers – I found that hilarious.
  • I started reading “The Fault in our Stars” by John Green, which I’m really enjoying. As much as I’ve been enjoying reading the Moomin books, I was starting to feel my brain going to mush so it’s nice to read something a little more adult.
  • This week Jenny Lawson released the paperback version of her amazing book “Let’s Pretend this Never Happened” – despite the fact that I already have the book in paperback.
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    Apparently my copy is a lie and this new edition is its paperback release. Colour me confused. Anyway, I really want this new edition because it has an additional chapter in it – but only in the US version. Annoyed much?! (p.s. Jenny I love you!) Anyway…..

  • I have rediscovered Damn You Autocorrect and it’s iPhone app, and spent many hours wetting myself laughing over it. So what if some of them are faked? They’re still damn funny!
  • So many of my friends are getting married or planning their weddings, and I’ve been getting so excited over it all. One of my best friends has asked me to go dress shopping with her next month and I CANNOT wait. G Man and I have also been invited to a wedding reception in June – I need to find an outfit!! I love weddings!
  • I’ve been enjoying saying ‘Yes’ rather than freaking out and saying ‘No’, of late. It’s been refreshing to say yes and mean yes.

And here are a bunch of thoughts that have come to me over the last week:

  • Why is there a fashion for girls to wear foundation coloured lipstick? It looks like no one explained what a foundation stick was and they accidentally put it on their lips. It makes them look ill.
  • Leggings as trousers – this one could run on and on.
  • So many young people I know have ‘health’ problems which they use as excuses not to do stuff. They act like old men and women and when they get to adulthood they’re going to regret not making the most of the freedom they had before responsiblity.
  • Too many young people wishing their lives away waiting for a day in the future when they could be making every day amazing and every day count. (Do I sound old and bitter yet?)
  • One of my tweets from last week: “My mantra used to be feel the fear and do it anyway. Since doing that, I feel the fear a lot less. I don’t miss it! #progress
  • What’s with this trend of not using ANY capital letters in blog posts? No where. None. Nada. These are educated, well spoken ladies, who should know better.

So that was my week! I’m off to finish reading my book now……

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Three Years Ago, Today (aka the good f**cking sh*t list)

Gary and I got married in the garden of a little manor house, under a gazebo with our family watching, three years ago, today. The weather was beautiful and warm, the sun shone and the day went smoothly. We were surrounded by family and friends and it was 100% ‘us’. Music featured hugely in our day. I walked down the aisle of lavender to ‘Burying Song’ by Hem (who, when told their music was featuring heavily in our wedding, sent us a best wishes message via MySpace!). We signed the register to ‘New Slang’ by The Shins and ‘The Painter’ by Neil Young. Then we walked back down the ailse to ‘At my Most Beautiful’ by R.E.M. Our first dance was ‘When The Stars Go Blue’ by Ryan Adams.

I was thinking last night about all the stuff we’ve done since we met. And thought to myself “we’ve done some pretty great shit”! We’ve been together for 7 years altogether. So I decided to write a list, which I have named the ‘good f**cking sh*t’ list, and compiles all the things we’ve done that are just darn great. It’s not in any order, because I’m not quite *that* anal. So here goes:

We’ve been to New York (rained in once, snowed in once) 3 times, San Francisco (saw Jersey Boys) and Las Vegas (saw The Beatles Love show!) once. We’ve taken weekend breaks in London, Manchester and Liverpool. While in Liverpool we stayed in the new Hard Days Night Beatles Hotel and took the Magical Mystery Tour. In Manchester we visited the Trafford Centre and toured Old Trafford Football Stadium. We’ve also been to see Manchester Utd. play. In London we’ve seen West End shows (Jersey Boys!!), been to the cinemas they hold film premieres in and seen the sites. We’ve been to Glastonbury twice, V Festival twice. We’ve also been to the Abbey Road Film Festival to see The Lord of The Rings in Studio 1. We saw the stage production of When Harry Met Sally in London (starring Alyson Hannigan and Luke Perry) We’ve also seen Lee Evans twice and Eddie Izzard once. I know I’m missing things out too.

Amongst all those things, we’ve been to see tons of gigs and concerts (not counting the festivals) and if you can bare to sit through it, here’s my list!:

Ryan Adams (four times), The Frames, The Stills, The Wallflowers, Hem (twice), Sheryl Crow, Coldplay, Radiohead (twice), Red Hot Chili Peppers, R.E.M, David Gilmour, Paul McCartney, Hard Rock Calling (Neil Young & The Fleet Foxes), The Zombies, Heather Nova, Sigor Ros, Damien Rice (three times), The Foo Fighters, The Dixie Chicks and Norah Jones. And again I’m sure I’m missing some.

So, as you can probably tell, I’m pretty darn chuffed with what we’ve done so far. So you can understand that I must be very VERY excited with what’s to come. We’ve seen and experienced a lot together so far, I can NOT wait for the rest 🙂