Why I: Got Married Young

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I’ve had a few people ask in the last few months, how I met my husband. So I thought that the next post in my Why I series, could be about why I got married young.

I look younger than my actual age, and when people hear that I’ve been married for almost 11 years, they instantly ask my age.

I’m turning 34 this year and I married when I was 23. People always say that’s really young to get married, but I say if you know you want to marry someone it doesn’t really matter how old or young you are!

I met G-Man when I was 19, through a friend’s boyfriend. Our official story is that we met at Glastonbury music festival. The truth is we had met a couple of months before that, and had even had a conversation at a party but the evening wasn’t about meeting boys and so our encounter was brief.

So, when we met up at Glastonbury we were able to have proper conversations, relax and watch music together. And he stayed with me and my friend the whole time he was at the festival.

There was definite sparkage between us, and I knew I liked him. We saw each other pretty much every day from that point on. After about a month I knew this was something serious and the rest, as they say, is history!

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This was the first photo of us together, in my bright orange bedroom!

We look a little different now!

We got married in the garden of a little private manor house in Hatfield, under the roof of a mini garden pavilion, whilst our friends and families sat theatre style outside on the lawn. I walked up the aisle of lavender and it was the shortest but most-perfect ceremony. A beautiful September day, small wedding and fantastic start to our married life together.

Over the years, I’ve had friends ask me things like ‘how do you know when you’re ready to get married?’, ‘how do you know you want to marry someone?’ – and I almost always answer the clichéd ‘you just know’. And that’s because you do – you just know. As certain as you know you’re alive, you just know. And if you’re questioning it, then that’s between you and your partner to work out.

I love my marriage. We get on like a house on fire, we’re best friends and though we used to argue, we know how to argue productively now. I wouldn’t say we even do argue any more. He’s the best thing in my life, and I’m happy every single day because of him.

I don’t want this to sound soppy, but everything I’ve said is true. He’s a proper gentleman and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my days with him!

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Why I…. Stopped Wearing A Bra

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Yes, you read that right. I stopped wearing a bra over 6 months ago. Before I carry on, I’m just going to give my Dad, who I know reads my blog, permission to stop reading this post. Don’t feel bad, I wouldn’t want to read a post about my kid’s boobs either.

I think the last time I wore a bra was at my friend’s wedding last year, and before that maybe Spring last year.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not walking around totally hanging out. I wear bralettes instead. But I want to write about what a difference it’s made to my life.

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Firstly, I’ll let you know I was never blessed with a full rack. I’m a small 34B, sometimes slightly bigger depending on hormones. I’ve never found I fit a bra properly, even in my size there will always be a gap and one boob is slightly bigger than the other so there’s nothing I can do about that. I can never just walk into a shop and pick up my size or buy online, without trying on first to make sure it fits.

I also have a twisted rib cage, so my ribs dip in on one side and protrude on the other. This isn’t a problem in everyday life, but means I can’t wear anything with boning or longline underwear. It also means underwire is often really uncomfortable. I never worked out why a cup size as small as a B would need underwire, but here we are!

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Because of my small size, I would always choose bras with ample padding or something to try and push me up, but as I got older I realised I preferred a more natural shape. I began to get used to my size and stop longing for a larger chest – something to fill out a shirt or bikini in a more feminine way.

But when I started to go to the gym more and wear sports bras, I began to appreciate my size and shape. Sports bras are designed to push in and support, and the more athletic shape is of a smaller chest size. I like that when I jump or run my boobs don’t move too much. And getting a sports bra on and off is hard enough with a B cup size, so I can’t imagine how hard it would be if they were any larger.

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Anyhow, I digress. Since the days of the sports bra I have purchased Calvin Klein crop tops which I love (though the bands are a little thick on my twisted ribs) and then after that I picked up a heap of Hollister bralettes. Not only are these comfortable, they’re pretty. They will go with any tops because they either match or contrast the straps of anything I wear AND they’re cheaper than bras.

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Also because of them being cross and racer back style, the straps don’t constantly fall down. Whoop! I have since bought some gorgeous lace front-fastening triangle bralettes from Victoria’s Secret and a halter bralette from Urban Outfitters. It’s really handy that these are so in fashion at the moment, because it means I have my pick!

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Now, I embrace my small shape. I love the freedom I get from ditching the underwire and I feel so much more comfortable all throughout the day!

Why I….. Started Reverse Washing My Hair

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I have what I would consider to be unmanageable hair. It’s poker straight, really fine and very flyaway. I can put my hair up in a pony tail and it’s the thinnest pony tail you’ve ever seen.

So, for the longest time I have to work hard to make my hair more coarse, less sleek and try to get some body and volume to it. I use Bumble and Bumble surf spray to add texture, and dry my hair in a twist to add shape.

My hair is colour treated – when it’s not, it’s too fine. I’ve died my hair red for 18 years, and in amongst those years I’ve also bleached it, which is what I do currently. I have a red/brown dye which I then top with blonde highlights so they go different shades of ginger and blonde. I love doing this and it definitely dries my hair out enough to give it some texture.

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I’ve used Aussie shampoo and conditioner for years. I like the way it makes my hair feel, it doesn’t coat my hair with silicone and it allows me to wash my hair every other day with no problems. Aussie shampoos and conditioners contain sulphates, which some people say is bad for your hair and strips hair colour. But I actually like my bleached bits to fade pretty fast once they’re done, so I can get the different tones to develop as briskly as possible.

When I heard about reverse hair washing, I think it was around the time that Tresemme released their reverse washing system. I don’t really like Tresemme so I didn’t head out and pick up their kit, but I did hop onto Google to see what the fuss was.

Reverse hair washing is simply using conditioner before you shampoo, instead of the other way around. Apparently it doesn’t work effectively with all types of shampoo and conditioner, but I didn’t want to splurge on more when I had a practically full bottle at home. The reverse washing method is supposed to be great for fine hair because conditioner can weigh hair down, so if you don’t end with it, but still condition, it can leave your hair feeling lighter.

After a little light research I discovered a method I liked the sound of. You wet your hair completely, condition well from the mid-length to the ends, leaving the roots (I can get greasy hair if I condition the roots too much) and then massage the hair. Leave it about a minute, if you have time, and then grab the shampoo. You then wash the conditioner out using the shampoo. This way the shampoo doesn’t strip your hair completely, as the conditioner is acting as a kind of barrier.

I washed my hair this way a couple of times, and didn’t really see a difference to start with. During this first week I also dyed and bleached my hair, and I did find the bleach settled in faster using the reverse method. But since I wasn’t seen a difference I went back to washing my hair the traditional way. After leaving it two days I started to wish I’d continued.

It was a subtle difference, but my hair did feel more manageable, healthier and when I combed my wet hair through directly after washing using the reverse method there were much less knots. So I went back to it!

I’ve been washing my hair ‘backwards’ now for over a month, and I’m converted. I really like how my hair feels. Like I said, it’s a really subtle difference, but I enjoy the way my hair feels, the condition of it and it’s less knotty. I even think it’s shinier!

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So, I’m going to carry on washing my hair this way for the forseeable future!

Have you tried this method of hair washing? How did you find it? Are you converted?