Are You On a Quest for Positivity?

I follow a YouTuber called Justin Scarred. Justin is from California and is primarily a Disneyland Vlogger (well that’s how I found him) but he also does random vlog around his life, the area he lives in and also Knotts Berry Farm, which is local to him. He’s recently travelled the whole length of Route 66 and back, which was very very interesting to watch, and I’d recommend watching it if that’s the kind of thing you like.

Anyhow, the other day Justin vlogged an update on his Quest for Positivity (or Q4P) and it was a really inspiring video. A few years back Justin went through some big life changes and somewhere along the line he made a conscious decision not to be a victim of the unhappiness he was feeling. He felt he was spiralling into a bitter cycle of feeling sorry for himself, which was projecting into the world around him, and he was tired of it.

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Listening to him talk about this Q4P and how he was getting on with it, range true with me. I’d like to think I’m a fairly positive person, but I can feel really negative too, and when I do it definitely spirals. Many years ago, I considered the practice of counting my blessings on a daily basis, and that’s where my Q4P began.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not all the way there yet, and I have MANY off days. But I know I’m trying. I’m certain that perspective comes with age. I’m about to hit 34 years old, and though no drama has really affected my life, I’m sure the things I’ve dealt with, seen and helped other people deal with, have given me the unique perspective I have on life. And by unique I don’t mean that I’ve got life all sussed in my mind and you haven’t – I just mean my perspective is different from everyone else’s – as is yours.

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I often see people being victims of their circumstances – they’re so deep into the emotions they’re feeling about something that’s happened to them that they get stuck in a rut. Even if they feel like they’ve dealt with the drama they’ve experienced, they’re now in that negative mindset and so that’s now how they deal with every situation that comes to them. Even positive circumstances will be tarred with a negative or dismissive brush.

I’ve come to realise that in my life, I need to accept negativity, then step back from it, brush it off and look at the bigger picture. I have to reset my mind to the middle ground – nice and calm, neither good nor bad – and then take the next thing I have to deal with as a brand new situation.

I’ve gotta admit, this isn’t easy. It takes a lot of practice and I’m not there yet. But once you accept a crummy situation as just that, it’s easier to deal with. No point in fighting it – just use the same amount of energy as you would feeling bitter, and put it into finding a solution.

Justin was right when he pointed out that if you keep hold of that negativity or anger, you’ll spit it out into the world, and eventually you’ll be one of those bitter and twisted old people you saw when you were a kid, but never wanted to be. That’s no way to live!

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So, you want to begin your own Quest for Positivity? A simple place to start by consciously counting your blessings every day. It can be as simple as;

  • Someone asked me how my day was
  • I heard a great joke today
  • That was a lovely cup of tea
  • I have a roof over my head
  • I’m feeling better in my self, than I was last week

There are so many things we can be grateful for, each and every day. And counting your blessings is a fantastic place to start.

We can gain perspective for ourselves, by considering the perspective of others’ in a non-judgemental way. Why did that person act this way? If I was in that person’s shoes, what would have been the catalyst for that behaviour?

As part of considering others, I’ve found it naturally leads to a change in my behaviour, because I won’t do things that might cause anger or hurt to others. I have more insight into how my actions might affect the emotions of others, and in turn I become a better person for it.

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I’m a crazy emotional person, and I find it very easy to jump to anger in many situations, but my quest for positivity has definitely helped me to gain perspective and stay calm in situations where I might not have in the past.

I’d be really interested to hear about your Q4P, if you’re on one. You might not call it that, but if anything you’ve read today rings a bell to you, I’d love to hear what practices you take to better yourself and help you along to a happier and more positive life.

This Week I Have Been Mostly….

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February has hit with a smash and a bang. Just as we’re trying to get used to the New Year, to the new “President” (I kinda like writing it that way) and longing for the Spring, we’ve been greeted with February. The groundhog says it’s going to be a long winter, but I’m hoping he’s just rodent with a long shadow.

I seem to be on a never-ending spending spree, and every weekend congratulate myself for a whole week without buying something, only to remember something I just bought or to go out a treat myself. This needs to stop, but at the same time there’s always something I need or want.

This week ColourPop got me with a new range of lip products called ‘Blotted Lips’.

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I knew I needed to get them, but with ColourPop being so hard to ship to the UK (not to mention expensive) and with the sting of customs charges, I didn’t think it would be on the cards. But then my American friend told me she was heading to visit family in a couple of weeks and would I like her to pick anything up for me. I knew this was meant to be so asked if I could ship something to her parent’s home. She said yes! So I filled my basket and got everything I’ve been lusting over for the past 6 months. This included a heap of lip products and one highlighter. I’m planning on doing a ColourPop video once it’s arrived. I’m so excited!

I’ve been really enjoying filming and uploading to YouTube and though I haven’t got many followers and there’s so much competition, I’m really enjoying the process and the comments I get from my viewers.

I babysat for my Niece this weekend, just past, and she gave me this picture she’d made for me:

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Apparently the night before she’d been so excited that her YouTuber aunty was going to be in her house and babysitting for her. She’s told all her friends I’m a YouTuber – which is technically true – I YouTube, so I’m a YouTuber! I love that I’ve got a fan!

I’ve also started working on a new series of blog posts called ‘Why I….’, the first of which will publish in a few days. It’s all about why I have made certain life choices and the affect it’s had on me. I hope you’ll enjoy reading them, and I look forward to seeing any discussion they stir up.

Having recently completed binge-watching the second series of The Man in the High Castle (awesome!) we had a TV void to fill, so we’ve just started watching The OA on Netflix.

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I’ve seen a few of Brit Marling’s films and though I find them self-indulgent, they’re incredibly interesting and unique, not to mention intelligent. We’re part way through and I’m hooked. I’m really interested in seeing how it ends – no spoilers please!

The week to come promises to be cold and icy, and all I long for is some sun, warmth and not to feel so pasty. I hope Spring comes soon, but until then I’ll just look at instagrams of tropical islands and pretend I’m there. Bring on Summer.

If you’d like to see my latest YouTube video, that went live this weekend, then go ahead below. It’s one for book worms – all about my favourite books!

ColourPop image copyright to ColourPop. OA image sourced via Google Images.

My Favourite YouTubers!

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In the last 6 months or so I have become addicted to watching YouTube videos from beauty tutorials all the way to Vloggers. Now my subscriptions list is growing larger, I thought I’d share some of my absolute favourites with you! And I’d love to hear who you like to watch and why 🙂

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The first YouTuber I watched when I started out was Amy Lynn Thompson (aka AmyLynnButtchin) I had already followed Amy on Instagram and Twitter and decided I needed to see her moving! She lives in California, loves Disney and make up and has an amazing and fun personality as well as being uber pretty. She posts sit down videos as well as Vlogs.

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Next I started following Michelle at Ready Set Glamour. I found her via searching for product reviews and I just loved her style and set up. She’s very town to earth, friendly and informative. She’s gorgeous and has a great personality. Her videos are always fun, and she is a doll on Instagram, twitter and snapchat. She’s very connected with her followers which makes us all feel like a little family!

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Around the same time, I found Kathleen Lights, who films beauty reviews and tutorials and the occasional chatty video. She’s also gorgeous and creates some really pretty looks in her videos. You may have heard of her before as she’s done a few collaborations with ColourPop. She also does an awesome British accent!

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Goo Roo Beauty is an Australian beauty YouTuber called Jodi and I came across her through searching for a product review a while back. I noticed she has a similar face shape and skin type to me and that made me really interested in her reviews specifically, but over time I found I loved her personality and video style. She’s an incredibly real person who understands the importance of being down to earth and beautiful on the inside.

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I have to mention Zoella, as one of the only English people I follow. I watch her standard videos and some of her Vlogs (they’re so incredibly long though). But she’s obviously living an amazing life and is so successful – you can’t help but be pleased for her! So I’ll carry on watching her and following her progression. Of late she’s not been uploading so many of the standard beauty videos and has been vlogging instead, which is a shame.

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As we have been planning our Disney World trip for almost 2 years it was a given we’d search for Disney related videos. The best Orlando based Disney/Universal vloggers can be found at The Tim Tracker. Following Tim and his wife Jenn around the parks (I don’t know how they find the time with full time jobs tbh!) has been wonderful and really helped us plan our trip. But they’re also great fun and really remind me of me and my husband in the way they interact and have fun together. Maybe we’ll bump into them whilst we’re there!

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And finally I’ll mention a new YouTuber who I’ve been really enjoying lately. Sophie Kate has only been blogging and Vlogging for a little while, but she’s uploaded a few videos and it’s great to see her sharing her day and favourite beauty products. She hates the sound of her voice, but I think she sounds just fine!

So they are my current favourite YouTube channels. I’d love to hear who you like watching and why because I’m always up for extending my subscriptions, so please comment and let me know who they are! And if you haven’t already checked any of the above channels out, please go and visit them! They’re worth it 🙂